Julie Longua Peterson鈥檚 research challenges traditional assumptions about self-love in healthy relations
Julie Longua Peterson, Ph.D., associate professor in the Department of Psychology and director of the Women鈥檚 and Gender Studies program, recently published an article with student co-authors, Alex Bellows (Psychology, 鈥15), Beth Giguere (Psychology, 鈥15) and Jannelle Sherman (Psychology, 鈥17).
The paper, titled 鈥淧artner self-esteem and interpersonal risk: Rejection from a low self-esteem partner constrains connection and increases depletion,鈥 appears in the .
The research found that rejection from a low self-esteem partner, versus a high self-esteem partner, increases connection-inhibiting behavior during conflict, reduces accessibility to connection related thoughts in memory and is experienced as mentally exhausting.
These effects emerge despite evidence from both self-report and independent coding that rejection from a low self-esteem partner is not more painful than rejection from a high self-esteem partner. Instead, people appear to use impressions of others鈥 self-esteem to determine whether they themselves should reduce dependence on their partners following rejection.
The research used experimental, observational and daily diary methodologies.
Peterson鈥檚 work challenges traditional assumptions about the importance of self-love in healthy relationships. How a person鈥檚 partner feels about their worthiness of love and acceptance, she says, may be the ticket to understanding that person鈥檚 own responses to relationship threats.